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Do you have any tips on waiting to date?


Although a lot of teens start dating early, I believe in waiting to date until I'm at an age to truly consider finding a spouse. It's hard, though, because it seems everyone else has a bf/gf. Do you have any tips on waiting and how to make the most out of our single years?Waiting, 15, ID

Shayna Answers:

Dear Waiting,

Remember that it’s OK to be single! Ecclesiastes 3:1 reminds us that “there is a time for everything,” and Psalm 27:14 tells us to “wait for the Lord.” It can be difficult to do, especially when everyone around you is dating. Yet don’t compare yourself to your friends, because God has an individual plan for your life (Jeremiah 29:11).

Just because you’re not making every move in sync with your friends doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. On the contrary, your decision to wait to date until you’re ready for a relationship is admirable.

The story of Samson and Delilah in Judges 16 is a case study on the perils of hastily rushing into a relationship. So use the time you have now to think about what you want from a partner and from a relationship. If you develop a clear idea of what your expectations are—in conjunction with what God would want for you—you’re more likely to have healthy relationships when you do start dating.

Adjusting your mind-set to be OK with being single will also boost your self-
confidence and help to squelch any negative thoughts that tempt you to change your decision. Focus on Philippians 4:6 and Matthew 6:34. Both of these texts will remind you that there really isn’t any need to be anxious about anything, because God has everything figured out for you already.

During this time foster relationships with classmates, acquaintances, and even older members at church. Talk to people you normally wouldn’t and spend time with them. Our everyday relationships are practice for maintaining and nurturing healthy dating relationships. And since dating can sometimes limit the amount of time we have to spend with friends and others, make the most of the opportunities you have now!

Also, try doing something for your own personal growth. Fill the empty slots of time in your day with activities that you’ve always wanted to do. Don’t worry if you’re doing them by yourself. Part of self-growth is finding out what we like, what we don’t like, and what skills we have, just because we want to be better people.

Something you should definitely do right now is go on a mission trip! Relationships can sometimes bind us to wherever our significant other is, so while you’re single, go overseas! Study abroad! Go serve others with your friends!

Most important, spend time with God. A tremendous part of eventually finding the right person is concentrating on being the right person. Do the most you can during this time to really get to know God and to allow Him to work in your life.

The most attractive part of us is really God living within us. So when it’s your time, your significant other will definitely love you, and hopefully he will love the God living within you as well.

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