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What are Godís guidelines when it comes to dating?(Part 2)


Part 2óWhat are Godís guidelines when it comes to dating?óBible Girl, 16, MD

Shayna Answers:

Dear Bible Girl,

Last week we said that the Bible doesn’t address dating, since people didn’t date in Bible times. So what we can do is use the guidelines that God has given us for physical, emotional, and spiritual behaviors and apply them to dating relationships.

We said that based on 1 Corin-thians 6:12-20, Ephesians 5:3, and Genesis 2:24, honoring our body as God’s temple and keeping it pure are important principles. We also said that based on Philippians 4:8 and 2:4, and Hebrews 10:24, we should think pure thoughts and uplift one another.

At the end of last week’s column we reviewed

2 Corinthians 6:14, which tells us not to unite with unbelievers. Why does God care so much about who we date?

Well, Ephesians 6:12 reminds us that everything in this world is more complex than we understand. Not only are there spiritual wars going on around us, the devil is actually targeting us, trying to lead us away from God (1 Peter 5:8). Unfortunately, the devil frequently uses relationships to do this, since some of us are willing to overlook the spirituality of the person we’re dating before ignoring other less desirable qualities.

For example, most people would never even start a dating relationship with someone they thought was rude, annoying, or vulgar. But many Christians have rationalized away a person’s spirituality by thinking that they’re a “good person” or that they’ll “eventually come around.”

 Sometimes Christians don’t even care about religion, because they’re just out to have fun—not a committed relationship.

By convincing us that having a strong spiritual foundation isn’t important, the devil can ultimately accomplish his goal of separating us from God and compromising our salvation. This is why 1 Corinthians 15:33 says: “Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character.’” Proverbs 4:23 warns us to guard our hearts, and Ephesians 4:27 says to avoid giving the devil an opportunity to lead us astray.

I know it seems overdramatic to think that spending time with a non-Christian is giving the devil an opportunity, but remember that all relationships—even friendships—involve some degree of give-and-take.

In dating, just like in marriage, the most important guideline we can follow is to put God first (Matthew 6:33). It can be difficult to trust or to wait on God to provide a person who will study, pray, and worship with us, but God tells us that the best relationships are built on a foundation grounded in Him.

See, God is at the center of every good thing (James 1:17; Psalm 119:68), especially at the heart of every good relationship.

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