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I find it hard tell the truth. Can you help?


I find it hard to tell the truth. Can you help? –Gentle Spirit, 16, NY

Shayna Answers:

Dear Gentle Spirit,

I can indirectly help you. Being truthful will require a conscious effort from you. Before we talk about how you can change, it’s important to think about why it’s so difficult for you to tell the truth. For many of us dishonesty stems from a fear of rejection—we fear that other people won’t accept us or like us the way we are.
Lying can begin by simply embellishing a story and grow into uncontrollable lying. Lying compromises your credibility and is a characteristic of the devil himself (John 8:44). In contrast, 1 John 4:8 tells us that “God is love,” and according to 1 Corinithians 13:6: “Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.”
Proverbs 16:13 says: “Kings take pleasure in honest lips; they value a man who speaks the truth.” However, this proverb isn’t just true of kings! You will find that people will like you more when you’re truthful with them. Telling the truth will help you develop a reputation as someone who can be trusted and whose friendship is worth seeking.
Because truthfulness is an outward expression of the inner workings of our heart, you need to guard what influences your mind. The types of TV shows you watch, the Internet sites you surf, and even what type of music you listen to can influence your ideas of right and wrong. Especially when you crave things for your lifestyle that you see or hear about, you may become tempted to fabricate details about your life to feel better about what you don’t have.
Spending time with God will seriously counteract the urges you have, as will telling the truth. As you seek your heavenly Father in devotional time and prayer, you will start reflecting His character—the very essence of truth (John 17:17). And as you grow to love God more, you’ll want to be truthful so you can please Him (Ephesians 4:25).
It’ll take time for you to get in the habit of telling the truth. Ask your friends and family to keep you accountable, and stay accountable to God. You also need to prove to yourself that whatever you fear might happen if you tell the truth won’t happen.
Fear is a tactic of the devil. Not only are fears usually much worse than anything that ever really happens, fear can keep you from doing what you really want to do (Romans 7:15). 
Start telling the truth and see what happens! God promises that it will be better than anything that results from lying (Proverbs 2:8).

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