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How can I help my parents through bad days?


How can I help my parents through bad days?óLove My Parents, 14, ID

Shayna Answers:

 Dear Love My Parents,

The fifth commandment is one that people often quote to young people: “honor your father and your mother” (Exodus 20:12). Your desire to help your parents through bad days is admirable. You even get bonus points for realizing that just like you do, your parents have bad days too!
Luke 6:31, Hebrews 10:24, Galatians 6:9, and Philippians 2:3 offer great guidelines for interacting with your parents—and with everyone else, too. The messages in these verses encourage you to treat others as you want them to treat you, and to consider others’ needs above your own.
With these texts in mind, think about what’s causing your parents’ bad days. Sometimes you can help alleviate stress just by distracting your squabbling siblings long enough to give your parents some quiet time, or by curtailing your urge to criticize something they’re doing—for example, making something you hate for dinner or nagging you about your homework.
It might also help your parents feel better if you take on more responsibility without being asked or receiving acknowledgement for it. I assure you that your parents hate harassing you to help with chores as much as you hate doing them. Jumping in and doing things before your parents have to ask for your help will make their bad days better. It will also keep you from forcing them to ask for your help when their patience is already thin.
If you’re not sure what you can do to help your parents, give some thought to what they most often ask you to do. If every Tuesday night your mom interrupts American Idol to remind you to take out the trash, it is likely Wednesday is garbage day. So empty the trash before she asks.
If you’re always getting in trouble for a messy room, try leaving the lid of your clothes hamper open, so when you get home, you remember to throw your dirty clothes into it, and not on the floor.
If your parents allow you to play video games for only a couple hours a day, set a timer for yourself and stick to their time limit.
You can also surprise your parents by listening to them. Usually we expect our parents to be our unconditional audience and help us with our problems. There’s nothing wrong with this, and it is our parents’ responsibility. However, try asking your parents, “How did your day go? Is there anything I can do to help you?” Their responses may surprise you.
Parents don’t always have an outlet for their daily frustrations. By simply offering them a listening ear, you may be able to alleviate a considerable amount of their stress. It will also help you practice building empathy into your other relationships. After all, active listening is an essential part of any successful relationship.
Finally, be obedient. I realize this sounds like the most obvious suggestion of all, but following directions every day—not just on your parents’ bad days—will strengthen their trust in you and demonstrate your ability to handle responsibility. Just knowing they can count on you to help them on especially rushed, stressful, or hectic days will make things easier for them on bad days.

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