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Is Satan is trying to confuse me by sending me dreams about my future husband?


One day I prayed and asked God to reveal who my future husband will be. That night I dreamed that I’d married a certain guy, and we did mission work together. Is it possible that Satan is trying to confuse me by sending me this dream?—Dreamer, 16, NJ

Shayna Answers:

Dear Dreamer,

Although the Bible does record very prominent instances of God speaking through dreams (for example, Genesis 37:1-11 and Daniel 4), it is possible for the devil to use dreams to confuse us. We know this because 2 Thessalonians 2:9, 10 warns us that the deceitful work of Satan is displayed through powerful signs and wonders.

Here’s how the devil usually works: he mixes a tiny bit of truthfulness into his deceptions. For example, in the Garden of Eden, the devil told Eve that both good and evil would be revealed to her (a truth), but that she would not surely die (a lie) (Genesis 3:1-7). Usually it’s the devil’s smidgen of truth that trips us up and confuses us.

I bring this up because you mentioned that you dreamed of doing mission work with the man you married. Doing mission work is not only an awesome desire, but it fulfills a calling that God gave to all of us (Matthew 28:19, 20).

The danger in tying this desire to be a missionary to a certain person is that doing so may cause you to fixate on making things work exactly how you dreamed that they would—not necessarily how God is working them out.

God often takes us on journeys that build our character before He fulfills His ultimate plan for us. When we try to “help” God by working things out for ourselves—say, by convincing ourselves that we are destined to be with a certain person—we usually mess up the plan. By putting too much emphasis on a dream, you might end up overlooking warning signs that can arise about a future spouse’s character.

The best way to discern God’s will from your dreams is to test your dreams against your knowledge of the Bible. Isaiah 8:20 says: “If they [false prophets] do not speak according to this word, it is because there is no light in them.”

Remember that Satan loves to confuse and distract God’s children, especially when it comes to relationships. Often it’s when we’re in relationship situations that we are most prone to make compromises, accept ungodly influences, and be led away from the truth.

Most of us, including myself, are control freaks who want to know exactly what will happen and when! However, 1 Corinthians 13:4 says: “love is patient” (NIV).* And Proverbs 3:5 says that we shouldn’t lean on our own understanding of things. God will reveal to you the person that you’ll marry, but He probably won’t do it only in a dream, and He probaby won’t do it before you are ready to get married. God is orderly, so the messages that He gives are also that way.

Until you’re ready to date seriously—most likely not until you are in college or later—spend more time reading your Bible and praying. As you do that, you’ll be able to hear the voice of the Holy Spirit helping you steer clear of Satan’s deceptions.

*Texts credited to NIV are from the Holy Bible, New International Version. Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984, International Bible Society. Used by permission of Zondervan Bible Publishers.

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