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Posted by manda on Nov 14 2009 2:02PM

i am a virgin but whenever i am asked if i am or not i seem to say no. i am not a pathelogical liar or anything but the pressure of bring a virgin is enormous. i c sex as something ppl should share wen they care about each other very much. and honestly i woud hav had sex a long time ago but i am mortified of getting pregnant. call me selfish but when i go 2 a store i want 2 look 4 myself not 4 baby diapers!!! does anybody else feel the same or is it just me ????

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- Re: abstinencefrom laura, Apr 18 2010 4:06PM
im a virgin & im very proud. me & my bf are waiting till we get married because thts something you do wen yer in love. Without God theres no love, therefore we shud do as he says & wait till u get married. Plus wen it comes down to marrying someone you deff dont want someone whos gone around the block. If you have sex after you marry you will be less likely to look at porn etc because you will always be satisfied with your partner cuz you've never had it with no one else

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- Re: abstinencefrom Aneret, Jan 1 2010 6:31PM
Hey i hear what your saying (kinda) but trust me! Being a virgin is somthing to be very proud of! I myself am a virgin and i am in no way afraid to tell people so! Most people accually respect me for it. I have heard lots of stories of people who wish that they had waited and continue to encourage me to wait. God's plan has always been that you get married before you have sex. Its in the Bible! God's plan is perfect. Never be ashamed to be virgin and never let others pressure you into giving up your virginity!

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- Re: abstinencefrom Joan, Nov 30 2009 6:27AM
Ma dear,that feeling of not revealing that you are a virgin usually attacks people who have a low esteem or even the kind of friends you hang around with could be a cause of this,rethink of what you want to attain in life and be thankful to God always about your virginity.many young girls mostly in Africa, it's taken away ruthlessly through war,rape,defilement.there's a reason you are not one of these victims..take time and give it a thought..take care of yourself.

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- Re: abstinencefrom AuroraBoarder, Nov 22 2009 3:41PM
These are all good answers. I'd like to add that it's my experience most people, adults and kids alike, who are having extramarital sex are extremely ignorant. I was once made fun of because I didn't engage in a series of negative, melodramatic relationships - later on, I found out the ringleader had never known anyone who was sane about finding a boyfriend. It never even occurred to her to learn about the man, rather than judging him by the type of car he drove. Ultimately, whether or not you're a virgin is nobody's business, anyway.

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- Re: abstinencefrom Danielle, Nov 22 2009 11:37AM
Yea your right about when you said that when people asked you if you are a virgin even when you said "yes" it seem that your saying "no," but still i'm glad that i am. girl just hold on although it's hard in the world of today. keep the faith!!!!!!!!!

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- Re: abstinencefrom Le'Queen, Nov 21 2009 2:11PM
i agree with denielle you should be happy about being a virgin. most girls who go around having sex end up pregnant and 99% of the time it causes a problem with their family. so don't think of your still being a virgin as a problem think of it as your choice to be smart.

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- Re: abstinencefrom Denielle, Nov 21 2009 7:32AM
I think you should be proud of being a virgin. Some people my think you're weird, but being proud about doing something wrong doesn't sound like something I would want to known for. I think being honest about your virginity would be a good example to others who are afraid to stand up for themselves.

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- Re: abstinencefrom Little Genius, Nov 20 2009 7:15PM
Look being a Virgin isn't a bad thing. First of all SEX is for married persons, not for persons like you and I. Secondly In My society(jamaica) young persons seem to be the most promiscuous persons in the world, however i know persons who Regret making a move like that. Finally bieng proud of the fact that you are a virgin, tell the truth and hold your head high, will make other respect you and want to be you. Being a virgin might have good benefit, more than you might think.

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- Re: abstinencefrom Caro, Nov 20 2009 4:55PM
True, sex is meant to be shared between two people that care about each other very much. But don't you want to share it with the person you truly love? Some (a lot of) people fall in love more than once, but a lot of them get married with the one person they have loved the most. Some even say this person is the one they have truly loved. Sex is something sacred; it is meant to be shared with that one special person that you have committed to spending the rest of your life with. Imagine getting married. You may have dated other guys in the past but you know this guy is the one and you love him so much; he is your one true love. Wouldn't you want to save yourself for him and only him? Your future husband, whoever that may be, will be that special. He will be worth waiting for if you make sure God leads you to him. You're also worth the wait.

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- Re: abstinencefrom Dwain, Nov 18 2009 12:38PM
Manda, don't forget that your body is not your own. Your body belongs to God and you are really precious to Him. He says, "do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s (1 Cor. 6:19-20). God's spirit is in you. That's partly why you're uncomfortable doing anything that hurts the body God gave you. You are worth the wait. Trust me, if you wait for the right guy and he honors God by keeping himself pure, the two of you are going to be happier that you can ever imagine. My wife and i waited and it was the best decision we ever made!!!! Don't hide your virginity. Be straight up about it.

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